SURVIVING BULLIES: Dan Speaks


An excerpt from a writer to Dan Savage’s column Savage Love:

If your message is that we should not judge people based on their sexual preference, how do you justify judging entire groups of people for any other reason (including their faith)? There is no part of me that took any pleasure in what happened to that young man.

To that end, to imply that I would somehow encourage my children to mock, hurt, or intimidate another person for any reason is completely unfounded and offensive.

An excerpt from Dan’s answer:

I’m sorry your feelings were hurt by my comments.
No, wait. I’m not. Gay kids are dying. So let’s try to keep things in perspective: Fuck your feelings.

And—sorry—but you are partly responsible for the bullying and physical violence being visited on vulnerable LGBT children. The kids of people who see gay people as sinful or damaged or disordered and unworthy of full civil equality—even if those people strive to express their bigotry in the politest possible way (at least when they happen to be addressing a gay person)—learn to see gay people as sinful, damaged, disordered, and unworthy. And while there may not be any gay adults or couples where you live, or at your church, or in your workplace, I promise you that there are gay and lesbian children in your schools. And while you can only attack gays and lesbians at the ballot box, nice and impersonally, your children have the option of attacking actual gays and lesbians, in person, in real time.

You can read the entire column, entitled “In Your Image” here, as well as many of Dan’s other columns, podcasts and youtube videos, especially the It Gets Better Project.

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One Response to SURVIVING BULLIES: Dan Speaks

  1. anonymous says:

    That damn Dan! How dare he change his mind about feeling sorry for hurting another person’s feelings. He ought to have his feelings hurt and see how he likes it.

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